It has been a couple of weeks since I was actually able to write in you. So much stuff has happened in my life that I am truly amazed. I wanted to write to you tonight to talk to you about acting out, showing off in front of others. The reason why this topic has come to mind is because one of my nephews showed up with his new girlfriend and wanted to stay at my place. I knew right from the start that it was going to be a disaster. Unfortunately I was right. While they were here they ate everything in the house, and of course a lot of things turned up missing.
Now, anyone that knows me knows that if you ask me for something I will do my best to make sure that you can have it. Most of the things that were missing, once they had left was mainly electronic stuff, like a cell phone, a blue tooth watch that would allow me to interact with my cell phone as well as a few other items. While all of this was going on my best friend from Atlanta was staying with me and already the space was tight. I have a one bedroom one bath apartment. So needless to say it was extremely crowded and tensions were already flying high because I was trying to figure out where my stuff was going. To top it off I had started talking to someone that I felt I could make a long lasting relationship with. Around that time my friend was looking for a place to stay. He sent me the question in a text message.
Never did I think that I would be in another relationship so soon. I know that Kerry had been gone for over year, and every once in a while I miss him. I miss the plans that we had made together, especially the morning walks. If you have gotten this far in reading this entry, you might be wondering what everything I have talked to you about has to deal with the title. I am so glad that you asked me that because up until this point I was just filling in the background so that you can understand the journey that I have been on since February.
What does act your age and not your shoe size have to do with anything? I will certainly tell you what I have figured out. It doesn't matter race or gender or gay or straight, it has to do with stepping up and being responsible and accountable for your actions. Most of the people who know me, know that I hang out with people a lot younger than me and because of that I have a unique insight into why people want to act out, get loud and angry. Or better yet put their hands on a pregnant girl. I have found that most of the 20 somethings that I hang out with have an attitude and they act like someone owes them something. Further, they have absolutely no patience whatsoever, they want what they want and they want it now. Most of them get mad or angry when things don't happen immediately. I will touch on this subject again in just in a little bit.
Now when I talk about acting your age and not your shoe size is because I have noticed that most of the 20 somethings are still acting like they are still in high school. Most of them don't show any signs of common sense. Let alone street smarts, meaning that they wouldnt know how to survive if they were thrown out on the street to fend for themselves. Sometimes you will run across an old soul these are people that dont act their age but a lot older. I have been fortunate the person that I met acts way older than their age, he is very kind and considerate and when I was deathly ill he took very good care of me.
On the flip side, I have a friend that got a girl pregnant and he will not step up to the plate and take care of her. The poor girl was working full time until her 8th month when her job told her that she needed to go ahead and start her maternity leave. Still the guy doesnt get it. He would rather do himself and waste all his money on drugs and stupid stuff instead of getting stuff for the baby which could come at any time now. I have tried talking too him and so has my partner but nothing seems to sink in.
We all can act childish and foolish from time to time, but there are so many people out there that refuse to take responsibity and own up to the things that they do. These are the people that I am talking about. Life is one big party for them, and they travel in a certain social circle until they have exhausted every bridge and person they come in contact with.
Life is way too short to just party your life away. I run into people every day that just want to party and waste their life away. Like I told my friend tonight he was talking about getting some crack and smoking that, and I tried to explain to him how if he starts with that one 10 dollar hit he would be back getting more in just a few minutes later. No matter how much talking I do, I realize that the ultimately only he can make the choice to quit and move on with his life or end up loosing his wife and kid.
I was recently told that the 40s are the new 30s and the new 20s are the 30s if this logic and reasoning is true that would explain a lot in how people act and react. I have a tendancy to call anyone under thirty a twelve year old. The reason being is because most of them act exactly like the line describes. It is unfortunate that a person has to search their whole life to find someone mature enough to date. which I think is the key to this whole entry. Maturity level is what this entry is all about. See some people can be mature enough to go out drinking and partying, but when it comes to responsibilities and errands they lack the motivation as well as the necessary skill set to accomplish the tasks presented to them.
I am never amazed when I see someone in their 20s trying to showboat and make out that they are tougher than they really are. But here is the thing that i want you to know and be aware of, you are going to have to get through their persona, and see the real person for who they are. You might just find yourself going through a slew of people till find one that respects and cares for you as much as you care and feel for them. Whenever you meet a new person you are going to have to take the time to get to know the person, because as you know we all put on our best face when we meet someone new. You have to be able to get to know the person that is hiding behind the mask that they have on. This is what I call the honeymoon period, because every one puts their best efforts forward when they first meet someone but over time that mask wears thin and they become more comfortable around you and you begin to see the person that was completely hidden by the mask that they were wearing.
It is after the honeymoon period has come to an end and you are beginning to see the person who has been hiding, when you will discover how mature that person really is. See during the honeymoon period when the mask is firmly in place it is hard to tell what the person is really like. They are acting and telling you exactly what they think you want to hear. But once the period ends you will begin to see the person for who and what they are. As I told you before maturity is the sign post at which you need to guage the person you are seeing. You need to find someone that is compatible with you on and emotional level. Age is not really a factor when it comes right down to it, because when your spirit talks to another on an emotional and spiritual level you are going to finally feel complete. Souls talk to souls by the vibrations that they put out. In an earlier entry i talk to you about resonating frequencies and how like frequencies can blend in harmony with each other, and that is exactly what happens when two souls commune with one another.
I can only hope and wish that you find a soul that you resonate with, that the person you find respects you and loves you as much as you love them. Because I have a time or two found myself loving another more than they loved me and the relationship ended horribly. Do yourself a favor and get to know the other person, wait for their mask to start to slip because then is when you are actually going to meet the real person for the first time. You may find that you have a lot in common or you may find yourself wondering why you took the time to get to know the person if it was just going to turn out in heart break. I have heard so many people say that they dont date friends because they dont want to mess up their friendship. i say to you that a relationship that is not based on friendship is doomed to failure from the very star. You need to be patient and take the time to get to know another person, wait for them to remove their mask.
Only you can decide if the person your are talking too is a kindred spirit, or if they are just a person who you can have a long lasting friendship with. Every one of us puts on our best face when we meet a new person, and each of us goes through a period where we try to impress the other person, this stage is called the honeymoon stage and after that period ends the person that remains is the real person that you need to get to know. It is unfortunate, but sometimes it takes getting to know another person several times before you get to the real person, who is behind that mask that they have put on.
Remember that we each need to act our age and not our shoe size, we need to demonstrate through our actions and deeds that we are genuine and sincere. Age is just a number and really doesnt have a direct bearing on a realtionship but maturity does. So, if someone is acting immature and doesnt meet up with your personal maturity and comfort level you need to let them go and keep searching because sooner or later you are going to run into that one soul that talks to you on its own level. Remember that like souls vibrate and oscillate in harmony.
One more thing that you need to keep in mind is that wisdom doesnt necessarily come with age. Wisdom is knowledge that is gained by age and circumstance. You can be old and not wise, but you can not really be wise without age.
As always my hopes and dreams are with you,