Saturday, April 28, 2012

Have you ever been intimidated or scared by someone?

Depending on who you are I would say that each and everyone of us has been scared, intimidated, bullied by someone in our life.  What did you do? Did you confront the person? Live with it? Or did you fight back in someway.  The topic of bullying has been in the media so much lately, there are commercials, there are pro-athletes and movie stars, singers and common everyday people speaking out against bullying and encouraging each of us to do our part to put a stop to it.

Here is the problem with these media campaigns they all assume that someone is witnessing the event taking place.  But what happens when you are all alone and you are caught by someone who is bullying you? How are you going to handle the immediate situation? What are you going to do?

Another problem is what exactly do we consider bullying? A bully uses intimidation, physical force, maybe emotional abuse and guilt to try and make another person do something or control them in some way.  Bullying is unpredictable, you never know how the situation is going to turn out.

These are my thoughts on the matter: No matter what the situation is or how scared you are. You must keep moving, try not to say anything and if they want something, give it to them.  My philosophy here is that retreat and personal safety are the better part of valor.  Keep your head down, try not to speak back and make the situation worse.  Once you are safely out of the situation you need to find the nearest adult or person in authority like a police officer, security guard, parking attendant, etc.  You need to let someone know what has happened and give as much information as you can to what the situation was about.  Now, in a dangerous situation you are going to be scared, you are going to panic, and you are going to want to get away from the situation as soon as possible.  But remember the more information you can give the authorities the better the chance that they will be able to find the person and deal with the situation.

You might even be bullied in your relationship, it definitely is easy to loose your sense of self when you are in a relationship and it is easy for your partner to manipulate you and put you down, make you feel inferior, This is a form of emotional abuse and you don't deserve to be treated that way.  Each of us deserves to be treated with love and respect.  But what will you do if you are in a situation that you cannot seem to get out of. Your mate is abusive, bullying, and keeps you always down. You need to realize that this is happening to you and you need to find inside yourself the strength to get away from that person.  You should remember that if this person is not helping you to get to the next station in your life, they are holding you back they are keeping you down, they really don't care about you, find help, confide in a friend, do something.  Doing nothing just strengthens the other persons hold on you and keeps you from moving forward.

Ut is everyone's responsibility to speak out, let someone know what has happened or is happening.  If we don't all do our part, how can we expect this issue to be resolved. Teachers and security guards cannot be everywhere, if you see something transpiring at school or on the street find someone of authority, strength is in numbers. Don't try to intervene yourself if you see that the situation could potentially become dangerous.

Many times if a person is bullying you it because you have something they want, or they are trying to impress someone or they are just compensating for some sort of abuse or they are trying to manipulate you into doing something that they want.  If you can get a person talking and can find out what the situation is all about so much the better, but the idea is to not get hurt and not put yourself at risk. The authorities will have to investigate and find out what the root cause of the problem is.

If you are a bully, what is it that is causing you to lash out and hurt others.  Why are you trying to make someone as miserable as yourself. If you are being abused at home or whatever your situation you need to let someone know what is going on. They can help you, get you help and stop the abuse.  Put yourself in the other persons shoes.  Try to understand that you are hurting someone, you are intimidating them, and embarrassing them.  None of us like to feel threatened, scared, intimidated, embarrassed, humiliated.  So treat others like you want to be treated. Remember that everything thing we do in this life has direct and severe consequences.  Karma is a Biotch and is something that you don't want to have come at you in a negative fashion.  Just remember that what comes around goes around.  In either situation whether you are the victim or the bully. Whatever you give out will come back. If you talk about another person in a negative way you are actually cursing the person.  Remember what I told you in my earlier post about the law of attraction?  In the terms of metaphysic energy remember that like energy draws more of the same. Positive positive and negative negative.  Now let me tell you something else that falls in the same category as the above law.  In our physical world we are taught about the law of cause and effect.

Physics teach us that for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.  Using this law anything we say or do would put this law into motion.  So if you think or speak something badly about a person you have actually cursed that person and put this law into full action.  What you may not be aware of is this if you put out good into this law you will get three-fold back, but if you put negative or bad out there you get ten-fold back this is the law of cause and effect and karma coming back at you. So please be careful with what you do, what you think, how you act, react and treat others because you are going to reap what you sow, and what comes around goes around.  Karma is an unforgiving mistress and will pay you back in kind when you are least expecting it.

So what have I been trying to tell you...Think before you act, curb your tongue, keep your head down, and if you are in a confrontational situation, do what you have to so you don't physically get hurt.  As soon as you get clear of the situation, let someone know, do something, you don't want someone else having to go through what you just went through. Try to remember as much from the encounter as you can and pass that on to others.

Treat everyone the way you want to be treated, love one another, and smile...You will get more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.   If we could all live by this philosophy the world would be a much better and happier place.

As always...let me know what you think and get back to me...

Uncle B